Sex, Sexuality & Gender Counselling

Relationships, behaviours & identity

Therapy offers a safe, confidential, non-judgmental space to talk about any troubling aspect of sex, sexuality or gender identity.

Sex forms a focal point of many powerful forces in human life. While we can surf the web and get any amount of information on virtually any aspect of sexuality, the topics of sex and intimacy continue to be difficult for many to talk about or resolve by themselves.

Sexual issues may well be intertwined with emotional, psychological, relational, cultural or medical issues. For this reason, your therapist is likely to take a holistic approach, viewing any particular issue as an aspect of your overall wellbeing.

The wide range of  sexual issues can be broadly categorised in to three areas: sexual difficulties, porn use & problematic behaviors, sexuality & gender identity.

Please note : If these issues are related to past sexual trauma they may be eligible for an ACC sensitive claim.

Sexual difficulties

Sex, sexuality & gender @ Auckland Therapy At some point in life, most people experience some sexual issues. Sometimes these will persist and become distressing. Sometimes these are best resolved in individual therapy, sometimes as a couple, sometimes as a combination of these. It is not uncommon for couples to come in together for a few sessions then one or both partners decide to do some individual work (or vice versa). More common issues include:

  • Unsatisfying sex lives
  • Erectile difficulties or loss of sexual desire
  • Pain or discomfort during sex
  • Different sex drives or compatibility issues
  • Changes after birth of children
  • Affairs and infidelity
  • Fear of intimacy or commitment
  • Performance anxiety
  • Low-sex or no-sex relationships

Porn & problematic behaviours

The internet and mobile phone apps have created wide availability and diversity of pornography and sexual opportunities providing an environment where pornography and problematic sexual behaviours are an increasing concern for many men and women of all ages, both in and out of relationships.

  • Mild to moderate concerns are best addressed within general therapy
  • For people in relationships consider couples counseling so you can sort things out together
  • Serious porn concerns and sexual compulsions are best addressed by one of our sex & porn specialists

Sexuality & gender

While attitudes to sexuality and gender identity have changed considerably over the past few decades, exploring these areas can still be a confusing process. These issues can be especially difficult for those who discover their sexuality or gender identity later in life, when they are in a relationship or have been brought up with particular family, religious or cultural beliefs.

Any of our therapists will accept you just as you are: straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, asexual, takatapui, fa'afafine, male, female, non-binary, gender-fluid, intersex, transgender, transsexual or curious. Therapy provides a safe space for you to explore your thoughts and feelings and support you on your journey.

Find a Therapist

All our therapists have a general appreciation of sex, sexuality and gender concerns and a general understanding of sex & intimacy difficulties. See any of our Auckland Therapists.

For therapists who have particular specialist experience or training in sexual issues see our Sex, Sexuality & Gender services.