Auckland Therapy Counselling and Psychotherapy

Breakup & Divorce Counselling

Breakups are one of life's toughest transitions.
The decision to end a relationship can be traumatic, chaotic, and filled with contradictory emotions.

When is it time to call it quits?

breakups & divorce @ auckland therapy : counselling and psychotherapyWrestling with a breakup decision is often lonely and stressful, with so much at stake, so much complexity and so many unknowns. A neutral space can help you sift through the issues, work out what is important to you and support you with your decision, whether it be to separate or try again. If you decide to stay, the therapy can help in sorting out relationship issues. If you decide to on seperation your therapist can support you through the inevitable emotional fallout.

Reactions to seperation

Whether it is the end of a brief relationship or the end of a marriage, breaking up is almost always tough. If you are the initiator of the decision, you may feel fear, relief, distance, impatience, resentment, doubt, and guilt. If you are the receiver of the decision, you may feel shock, betrayal, loss of control, victimisation, decreased self-esteem, insecurity, anger, a desire to "get even", and wishes to reconcile. It might even lead to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and further relationship difficulties.

Handling your emotions

Breakups often trigger intense emotions and you may not know how to handle these. If you are lucky enough to have support from friends and family this is invaluable — but this is not always enough. It is very important to talk to someone who understands about how you feel and address your emotions so that you do not have to live the rest of your life in a constant state of recovery.

Effects on children

The end of a long-term relationship with children make the process of separation and divorce even more difficult with all its legal, financial and custody complications. Most people realise that children may be profoundly affected by a breakup. Having professional support for yourself through the breakup or divorce process will help you protect your children from the fallout.